Self Defense is mental as well as physical. Here are some tips to address the mental side of Self Defense.
There are people out there who either enjoy robbing people of their happiness or enjoy putting other people down. Sometimes these individuals like to take control of other peoples’ will to power their egos or they were raised that way by caretakers or peers. It seems as though they really enjoy controlling other peoples emotions because of some kind of sinister ill way of rewarding themselves – like winning a trophy in some kind of sports competition.
Have you ever talked to a person and they were smiling the entire time during the conversation, but then afterwards when they were finished talking with you, you notice that you were feeling really badly inside. You would imagine or think to yourself that you might be making all this up. You are unclear if this was done on purpose or by malice or were you just losing your mind, making a big deal out of nothing.
There is a few things you can do to stop this from happening to you and others. I will do my best to help shed some light on this matter here and hopefully it will make some sense to you.
The Beginning, Creative Talk
They are actually using what I call creative talk, by picking their words very carefully. Some of these words can have double meanings and they choose to use these words in their conversation with you and with others. This is actually a form of brainwashing and mind control techniques that are developed to undermine the unknowing subject or person who already lacks self esteem.
Not Good my friend!
In your defense from these individuals, try this simple exercise. First thing to do is start taking notice of the words you choose to use, in your everyday conversation with others. Do this on a day to day basis. If you really listen to how you talk and what words you are speaking to others, it will help you to take notice to how people judge you and why these people are able to get you to do the things you really do not want to be doing and why these people have so much control and power over your emotions and your life.
If there are words you really have little understanding of or do not know what that word really means, look it up in a dictionary. How many times have you used a word on a daily bases that you only have a vague understanding of?
Here is another exercise, carry around a little notebook or even a tape recorder on your person. Every time you happen to use a word that you really do not understand, I mean the deeper meaning of that word, go look it up in a dictionary. The dictionary is your best friend for combating mind control. The politicians use creative talk all the time to lull you into voting for them and it works. Write down every word you do not understand in your little pocket note book and then when you return home, dive into your dictionary. Your vocabulary will improve as well and so will the power of your mind.
Here is an exercise: write down ten words that you already know
Example:
- yes
- no
- sadness
- happy
- maybe
- knowing
- change
- salute
- country
- actually
Now for one week (seven days total) read the meanings of these words out of your dictionary even though you already know the meanings to them. Also read any other meaning in there that you did not know of these words. After one week pick seven more new words that you know and continue onwards. You can pick words you didn’t know as well, that will be fine..
Results – after just three months of doing this exercise not only will your mind become sharper but what people are saying to you will now have a more deeper meaning. Also, you will find yourself using these words that you thought you once knew, are now being used differently in your conversations. You will now have a more positive influence with your conversations when talking to others and trying to get things done – like on a job site.
Another way of combating mind control, try this…
When some one like a friend – family member – coworker etc.. says something to you in a way that makes you feel bad, stop them in mid conversation and ask them what they meant by that statement or what they are getting at with their conversation.
Now here is the important part and (again this will take much practice on your part along with courage), when they do or say something that threatens you, hurts your feeling,or just makes you feel uneasy inside, mention it, bring it up, allow them to know that you just now caught them in their attempt to either hurt you or manipulate your mind and control you through your feelings. This will make them think before they talk with you from now onward and they will come to respect you a lot more as well. By putting them on the spot you now just reversed the tables on them.
Ah-ha!
Example:
Lets say you are talking to your good friend and they happen to say something that really hurt you and they kept the conversation moving as if nothing had happened. But something has happened and you felt it deep inside of you as if you were punched in the belly.
“Hey Sue, wow you really look wonderful today, are you on a new diet? Well imagine how good you will look in a few months from now.. those thighs will become much slimmer and your legs will look much longer. I love long legs.”
This end part about loving long legs is to throw Sue off. This is double standard talk, meaning it could go either way. How smooth she keeps her vibrations in her tone of voice and how her face looks as though nothing wrong has happened will help sell this hidden insult to Sue and start the mind control process.
“Hey Jim, you look great, did you join a gym? Well whatever you are doing man, keep it up. Because you are starting to look marvelous. I am sure once you flatten out that belly a little more and start to show a six pack, the ladies will love that and be all over you.”
OK so now Sue is really not on any diet and Jim does not have a membership to a gym nor works out.
So what’s wrong with these two conversations you may think or ask?
Well the person who is asking and giving these complements is suppose to be your friend. They know you are not on any diet nor do you workout. You know they know your situation as well. But they go ahead and say something like this to you anyways and may be right in front of your other friends, who by the way, also knows your situation . You are not on a diet nor are you working out.
This person also told Sue that she, or now leads Sue to believe that she has big thighs and short legs and that Sue needs to go on a diet. Now this can be very hurtful to someone who is worried about body weight issues.
This person is also leading Jim to believe that he is fat and needs to get rid of his gut in order for the ladies to like him. He is giving Jim a mental image of himself that he needs to join a gym and he needs to get rid of his gut if he ever wants the ladies to be able to like him. Now Jim may really have a little bit of a belly, but nothing that really takes away from his appearance or his personality.
Also, how this person carries their level of vibrational flow during their delivery of conversation is what sells it. The flow of conversation and level of raised voice (vibrational frequency) has everything to do with their getting over on you with out you even taking notice to it until later on. After they have done their evil deed and dropped their hidden mind control seed of a bomb and they already walked away while you think about it, the seeds that were just planted are now taking root.
Now they really didn’t come out and say it in a direct way to your face that you could have taken noticed to it. No, they chose a way to say it in a sneaky undertone way in a sense, that they are actually talking badly about you or that they are in fact putting you down right in front of your face. And they do this willingly right in front of others which adds to the drama. These are in fact weak minded people who actually enjoy doing this to others (putting them down) on a daily bases.
They may have learned this creative talk from their parents or they may have learned this from friends. It doesn’t matter where they learned this or picked it up, but that they are doing it with ill intentions towards you…and that is very bad.
Strong minded people will tell you to your face. Even if it means it will hurt your feelings. Strong minded people are not afraid to get emotionally involved with challenging conversation with others. I really respect people who can say what they want (what’s on their mind) and not beat around the bush because they lack in courage to be able to say what bothers them.
Instead, these weak minded mind control mongers chose to do it in a round-about-way to make you feel really badly about yourself by using creative talk. They enjoy talking you down so you wouldn’t know where they were actually coming from in case you happen to start taking notice to what they are actually saying and what they actually mean. Lots of people do this to others everyday. Maybe it happens on your job site . Maybe in your relationship it is happening right now. People are gaining ground over you by causing you to self-destruct.
Everyday there are lots of people that I meet that are all mixed up inside. They walk into my dojo very closed minded and guarded. They are not happy people and they need my help. They come in very depressed and are ready to self destruct on a moments’ notice. After I work with them for just a few weeks, the improvement is truly amazing. They start coming out of their shell and explaining to me what goes on in their work environment or job site. People are just walking all over these poor souls. But right after they get a few lessons in verbal jujutsu, they are a lot happier and I also notice they have more spring to their walk. They even bring me in other poor souls who need my help.
Here is what you can do about people taking control of your life by way of your mind.
Combating the Jedi Mind Trick:
When you either hear something out of place or that does not sound right or you feel something that is not right, just simply stop the person who is talking and putting you down in mid sentence or you can wait for them to finish their sentence. That is all up to you now, because you have made up your own mind to start standing up for your self and start putting ill minded individuals in check. By the way, by doing this you are doing two good deeds.
- You are now helping this individual to realize how they actually effect others and just maybe they really didn’t realize or know what they were doing.
- You are now starting to take control of your own life and that is a much healthier way to live your life from day to day.
Look them directly in their eyes, let them see you take in a very deep breath like you are disappointed in them and then release your breath to help you cleanse the bad energy out of your body and to help get you ready for the sand storm you are about to unleash. They will get the idea that something is very wrong and this is what you want to project outwards to them, that something is indeed very wrong here, just before you even start the questioning or accusing them of their crooked deed.
Look at them through their left eye (because in energy work the left eye is the receiving eye) and ask them, “What did you mean by that statement?” They will ask you what you are talking about. So allow them to know what you are talking about. Mention the part that upset you so much by saying it back to them. Mention they just now hurt your feelings by that statement and you are in fact upset with them and very surprised. Now you just put them on the defensive and they will have to explain their actions to you along with an apology.
If they do become very angry and upset with you and they happen to walk away from you, don’t panic. Because this will now let you know that all this time, they have been doing this to you all along and they even may have had this all planned out from the beginning even before you started to take notice to it. They planned this script of creative talk in their own minds and they meant to brainwash you with it. How many other people are they doing this too? How many people do they hurt on a day to day bases and walk away snickering in a sinister way thinking how wonderful they are?
Here is a script to practice stopping the mind control:
Always say what you are feeling inside. This is extremely important, for instance -
- What you just said to me just now, is making me feel really uneasy.
- What did you mean by that statement?
- What you just said, really offended me.
- Why did you say that and what are you getting at?
You can make up your own scripts to practice at home first to help you design a method of creative self protection talk or speech. When you do face off with the bad mouth, you will have something ready to say and that alone will help you to grow your confidence until it becomes more natural to you and you can defend yourself right there in the moment that it has occurred.
Always stand up for yourself and do not allow others to take control of your mind. Live freely – laugh daily. There is no need for any of us to walk around feeling depressed or feeling we are not good enough. You are good enough,
This is what our society has now turned into. Our politicians lie to us and rub it in our faces every day. Even our liberties and our rights are being taken away from us everyday on a mass scale.
Don’t allow others standing in front of you to rob you of who you are. You are now armed with the tools to defend yourself.
So stop it now!
Conclusion
I remember Popeye the sailor-man saying, I am what I am. I would like to also add something to that, “We are who we say we are.” By using certain words everyday, that we are not aware of their true meanings we are actually programming our own minds to become whatever we say it is.
By using words you lack deep understanding of, it robs you of your inner confidence right as you speak them. This lack of confidence will come out in your vibrational tones that you speak in daily life. If you want to reprogram your mind for success, you can with practice. But you must be willing to make the change you want to become. Listen to what you say to others in daily conversations. Listen to any down play of yourself, by you or another person. Then make plans to start your program of verbal defense. Your life will become more enriched.
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Very Good and Thorough Post!!
One challenge I would issue the reader is this: Realize what mental state you are in!!
In order to be controlled, we must be in a state where we are receptive to that control. We must maintain a state of mind that is responsive to the needs of other’s but unresponsive to the negative feelings of others.
If we seek a state of confident peace, we will not be shaken easily by these types of assaults. Gain confidence from making good choices with respect to all your actions, and gain peace from performing actions that create peace. Who could then question you or your actions, hmm . . . ?
With Great Respect,
John Cunningham